I'd like to write more even at the risk of not having much to say. Because the more a person writes the better they get at it and the more you remember your ideas and thoughts each day.
Today my best friend, my longest friend, called me. It's nice when your longest friend is still your best friend. Maybe the two go together. Maybe not. At least the friendship has the luxury of knowing whether it will stand the test of time. This one certainly has.
We've been friends through many ups and downs. Some super-high ups and some horribly-low downs. Real life. Down in the dirt, get kicked around, wonder-if-it's-worth-getting-back-up-and-yet-you-brush-yourself-off kind of life.
I was a bridesmaid in her wedding over 30 years ago and she was one in mine… my first marriage that is. Once we were pregnant at the same time. The nice thing about cultivating a friendship is that you never know what you will encounter down the road. You think your friendship and life is just humming along, maybe not changing then BOOM, a major life event occurs and you can prove you're a friend by how you react … how you stick by each other. How you offer support, show you care, help take the sting away… or you happily rejoice with them during highlights and successes. Thankfully there are those too.
I was a bridesmaid in her wedding over 30 years ago and she was one in mine… my first marriage that is. Once we were pregnant at the same time. The nice thing about cultivating a friendship is that you never know what you will encounter down the road. You think your friendship and life is just humming along, maybe not changing then BOOM, a major life event occurs and you can prove you're a friend by how you react … how you stick by each other. How you offer support, show you care, help take the sting away… or you happily rejoice with them during highlights and successes. Thankfully there are those too.
She had a rough day at work and spent most of our talk telling me about it. When we were ready to hang up she apologized for talking so much about herself. But I told her and it was the absolute truth that I was happy to listen and be an outlet for her… It helps to tell someone sometimes. Almost like letting some of the air out of an over-inflated balloon; we need to decompress. God knows I've needed her ear many times myself and she's never acted too busy to hear me out.
It's been her commitment and loyalty quite frankly that has made this friendship last and grow. She is one of those people who takes the time to reach out, call, keep in touch. I'm not so good even though she knows my heart toward her. By this time she knows I care and I'm a forever friend. We have to be! We just know too much about each other!!
She recently sent this photo to me and I think it's just right.
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