Monday, August 22, 2011

hard decisions

Edd is going on disability because of his cancer.  It's a big deal.  He's worked for the same company and with some of the same people for nearly 30 years.  He recently had to pass up a dream job because of his health even though it was offered to him.  I'm so proud of him.
He is the most faithful and loyal person I know and committed to doing the right things.  I don't know how many times I've heard him say after making a difficult decision, "That was hard but I feel good.  It’s the right thing to do.   Doing the right thing gives me strength.” 
Especially when the decision costs something.
Sometimes my heart would break as I watched him wrestle with the process, but he'd always come out the other side at peace because he thought it through and then acted on the decision he made.  He'd live with it, and accept it.  That’s what a good man does.
So often today people don't make decisions.  They don't realize NOT making a decision is a decision too, but usually not a good one.
It takes courage to make a decision, act on it, and see it through.  Live with it.  Not look back, complain or whine about it.


That's something I've learned about him.  And I want to be more like that.

10 comments:

  1. What a beautiful tribute to Edd and a lesson to all of us. Thank you Kathi for sharing your feelings. I think you and Edd are wonderful human beings. I can't tell you how proud I am of both of you.

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  2. How often the right thing is the hard thing! You're right, not making a decision IS a decision and a bad one at that. You and Edd are amazing.

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  3. You are right, deciding not to decide is not a good thing. I am proud of him. What a good man.

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  4. Edd is a very strong man from all tales told. Blessings to you both.

    Hugs~

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  5. What an extraordinary man. Love seeing you living life extraordinarily together. <3

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  6. Edd sounds like a man worth knowing - and what a great example he sets! Best wishes to both of you.

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  7. Thank you for posting this today. While my trials are for more trivial than those you and Edd are facing, I feel like I needed to hear this today, above all days.

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  8. Great post, no other comments needed!

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  9. I always look forward to reading your posts. They are always layered with wisdom and insight. I admire everything you and Edd are doing and how you are going through this struggle/milestone in life with such grace. I hope someday I can have as much faith and beauty as you do.

    Thank you for always being open and sharing all your revelations. You truly are a beautiful person inside and out, and Jenni is lucky to have such a wonderful mom. :)

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  10. I second your "posts being filled with wisdom and insight" and MUCH MUCH LOVE. Thank YOU for blessing me! I will still be around to check in with you and you beautiful life and your beautiful love.

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