I was proactive in taking care of me. Any time I actually make a doctor's appointment for myself I feel good. I'd been taking care of Edd for so long, but there are no longer any excuses to neglect my own health. I knew I needed some extra help and advice so I went to see my doctor to talk over my concerns and how all this grieving is affecting me. I'm glad I did. I even discovered I weigh five pounds less than I did this time last year. I'll take any good news I can find!
I am seeing myself go through different stages in the last couple of months since losing Edd. I hurt just as much, but I feel as though he is deeper in my heart than he has ever been. I used to get angry if someone said he would always be with me, but I am feeling as though this really may be true. He isn't here the way I want him to be, that's a fact.... and when I think of how much I miss him it can be unbearable.... but he is with me in ways that will only increase with time.
It is a great blessing that I feel his support... every moment. He wanted it to be that way, and it is. I have felt too vulnerable for too long. Fragile. Bending at times to the opinions of others whose views we didn't entirely share. But it'll be okay. Going forward I plan to feel more confident because that is what Edd would want for me. I feel his strength. Every day. Telling me... "Kathi, you're doing fine." Or, "I'll see you before you know it".
And he would want me to take care of myself... at least as much as I took care of him...
I dropped a tear in the ocean. The day you find it is the day I will stop missing you. ~Author Unknown